Myths of Your Life

The more comprehensively aware we are of our existence the more diverse and wider is our way of dealing with love. For someone love is limited only to his physical living and existence. As we develop on the road of our spiritual evolution our understanding about love will develop, too, and we will start to move from self-centeredness towards a more holistic state of awareness. We will love our family, we will love those who are close to us, as well as living creatures. At some point our own self will start to play an ever less significant role as we move on to reaching for cosmic love, until we start to live it true through our actions and through our approach to entire life.

In his book ”Myths about Love”,  Mr. Peter Lauster, a psychologist, published a research on people’s average conceptions about love. According to him, people have created nine myths concerning their relationship to love. In this chapter, I will compare and combine those myths with the universal idea of love. 

First myth: ”Sexuality liberates”

The boundary between love and sexuality has become vague. Human beings live in a strange, conflict-creating energy environment. Being emphasized more and more, especially in commercial marketing, sexuality has been made a phenomenon which creates anxieties and is torn by moral contradictions. The more sexuality is overemphasized the more a human being will be in conflict because artificial moral codes and religious dogmas are telling him simultaneously, directly or subconsciously, that there is something wrong in sexuality. The wrong and the contradictions lie within us, however. The wrong is in societal structures, values and thought patterns. Sexuality, on the contrary, is natural. We are sexual beings. We are filled with energy, sexual energy, divine creative energy. Energy is neutral. Endless energy manifests itself in all its possible forms. Sex is one form of manifestation of this energy in the world of phenomena. In our world, societies have been built and destroyed around this phenomenon. People, too, have been destroyed on account of this. Countless moral codes and other forms of repressing the manifestation of this energy have been developed. Instead of manifesting ourselves openly as sexual beings and allowing the repressed energies of love to flow we are stuck in a vicious circle where we are buying apparent freedom but are in fact repressing ourselves.

Dual moralism flourishes although it is you who could flourish instead. Liberating sexual energy does not mean a collective orgy where the focal point of life is to screw with all. Liberating sexual energy means unhindered expression of the life energy flowing inside all of us, as well as directing this energy naturally towards higher dimensions of consciousness. This is not possible if we imprison ourselves to expressing only the physical and biological world. This is because, physically thinking, a sexual climax is one of the finest things that a human being can experience. The boundary line between experiencing sexual and spiritual states of consciousness is very subtle.

People think that experiencing sexuality is a precondition for everything. I say to you, dear friend, that you remain you whatever you experience. No human being is to a lesser or a greater extent his own self because of some external experience. You can be all that you are without a single sexual experience. You can also be all that you are with thousands of sexual experiences. There is no boundary here. You are. You create your own boundaries and your own consciousness. Liberate yourself. You are a spiritual being. Experiencing sexuality is an experience of the physical world. As a spiritual being your are sexless.

Energy that was molded in a wrong way requires its balancing in sexuality, too. A cosmic law is greater than life. How we relate to sex does not limit itself only to the framework of our present life although contemporary psychology, a little panic-ridden, aims to limit our whole conscious existence merely to this present life that we are living. You are you and I am I, irrespective of how the generally accepted world-view defines you or me to be. You can be narrower or wider than collective consciousness. You can also be similar to collective consciousness. The most important thing is honesty because love is honest. The more you manifest honesty to more you will live love true. 

Sexuality liberates only if you are free. Freedom is not outward but inward. When free, you can belong to anything ornot belong to anything. You can be married or live together with someone, or neither one of these as long as you are ”I am”. Sexuality liberates or binds. The question is who is the slave and who is the master. Do you master sexuality or does it master you?

Real sexual liberation is liberation from sex. That attained, we will express the universal creative energy flowing through us but will no longer be sexual even if we have sexual intercourse. This is meditation. It is not denying pleasure but experiencing pleasure. Countless people experience countless things without enjoying them. They think they are enjoying when satisfying their external needs. This can be seen everywhere. People have become consumers. Also experiencing sexuality has become a commercial good. Real experiencing is being. Also experiencing sexuality is being. You are sexual energy, you will notice how this energy inside you becomes neutral. The more you are the more you will be real. Your physical self is only a possibility which is made up of energy forms that were molded in a wrong way and which can be balanced. The more you are in balance the more you will be reality. Your sexual self is not real. It is only part of an infinite possibility. Sexuality does not liberate you, neither does any other external factor, be it from your instinctive desires or thought energies outside of you which affect your mind. You liberate yourself. Love liberates you. The truth liberates you.